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Can sex problems cause heart disease?

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Experts tell us that sex problems such as erectile dysfunction are an indicator of early heart disease. But think about it for a minute. Don’t they also tell us that stress is the biggest cause of heart disease? I’d like to propose another theory – that the stress resulting from sex problems such as erectile dysfunction (weak erections), premature ejaculation (ejaculating too soon), being unable to ejaculate, inner vaginal dryness and problems reaching orgasm can all lead to heart disease.

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Having a problem you don’t know how to solve places a huge burden on your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. This can make you feel anxious, depressed and overwhelmed. It’s no fun to feel like you’re failing, and constant memories and reminders of failing during sexual encounters constantly triggers stress hormones.

Even imagining failing at sex will release an onslaught of stress hormones including adrenaline and cortisol. While adrenaline immediately drops after the initial surge, cortisol usually takes much longer to level out. However, cortisol can remain high if you continue to worry about your problem and the consequences it might have on your life and the future of intimacy with your partner.

Stress hormones are released to prepare you for fight or flight. They are useful for responding to immediate threats, and after the perception of danger has passed, your cortisol level should calm down. But when you are constantly feeling stressed and emotionally triggered, your cortisol levels remain high and your body remains in a state of high alert to prepare you for potential threats.

Inflammation is your body’s response to a threat and this can include psychological and emotional stress.

Can you now see how sex problems can lead to heart disease? Many health conditions have chronic, low-level inflammation in common, which is frequently caused by the stress of perceiving a threat which is either real or imagined.

So when we remove the sex problem, we remove the source of the stress which means our body can return to a state of calm.

To remove stress, make sure you get rid of the sex problem

It’s common for men and women to try to ignore sex problems in the hope they will magically disappear. The problem with this, is if you continue to focus on the wrong technique at the wrong time you will continue to cause these problems to occur!

High levels of stress hormones can also make you feel jittery and anxious. This leads to further challenges because if you’re not giving your brain relevant signals to complete a sexual act, then the wrong hormones and muscle programs (or none) will be triggered… which leads to more stress.

Beware of the wrong information

There is so much wrong information being circulated mainstream. Many sex therapists will tell you to focus more on your partner. However, if you focus on your partner in the wrong way, or for the wrong amount of time, again, you will cause random problems to occur. For men this may be no erection, weak erections, ejaculating prematurely or not being able to ejaculate at all.

Common problems for women include low libido, vaginal dryness and problems reaching orgasm. These happen as a woman struggles to get turned on and stay turned on. While this is sometimes associated with her partner’s sexual problems, she also needs to know how to balance her sexual focus to activate (and keep activated) the sexual programs in her brain.

Too much focus on the emotional connection a woman feels with her partner will render her incapable of reaching orgasm as it isn’t a signal relevant to completing the sexual act:

Jean was 76 and had been married for over 40 years. She always enjoyed the intimacy and closeness of sex but had never been able to achieve an orgasm. Over the years, she and her husband went to many doctors and specialists and tried many treatments. Nothing worked until they found me. Six weeks after her session with me, her husband reported that Jean now “hits gold” nearly every time they have intercourse. Jean happily says that sex has now become enjoyable for both of them.

Regardless of whether you are healthy or have minor or major health challenges, to solve male and female sex problems your brain requires and acts on relevant and specific signals throughout sexual activity. This includes sexually arousing thoughts, actions and your awareness of feeling. Knowing how to balance your sexual focus to achieve the right balance is paramount.

Final thoughts

Due to a lack of relevant sex education, sexual “malfunction” issues affect at least 50% of men and women over forty and over 33% under forty. Statistically, one-third to half of your friends, colleagues and acquaintances are suffering from these problems!

The ongoing stress from these problems not only affects their confidence and self-esteem but also their mental, emotional and physical health. Additionally, the associated tension compromises their relationship and frequently leads to relationship breakdown. There is no emotional challenge or sexual function issue (including vaginal dryness) which fazes me in the least, so sharing this post may help save many lives.

Jacqui Olliver

Psychosexual Relationship Specialist at End the Problem, Jacqui Olliver is a published author who renews relationships by solving people’s emotional and sexual issues. In the past 7 years, she has helped over 1,000 men, women, and couples restore a relaxed, happy, and fulfilling sex life and enhance their overall connection. Click here to check out her programs or to book a 20-minute complimentary strategy session and start getting real answers to solve the real problems.