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  • #1691387
    Profile photo of Hero42Hero42
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    Hero42

    Halycon
    You were lucky not to know anyone who committed suicide, I knew a couple of them.

    As for ADHD, ADD, OCD etc I now know in hindsight that that was what some of my friends had we just didn’t know it then.

    Cheers 🙂

    #1691395
    Profile photo of halcyonhalcyon
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    halcyon

    Hero, I was talking about the late 1940’s and early to mid 1950’s. In those days suicide  was uncommon in young people.

    And I am well aware of how a suicide can impact one. I had  a staff member who committed suicide. For many years I questioned myself if I could have done anything to prevent it. In the end I made a change of vocation, going to uni to gain greater understanding.

    I also question the value of labels. When one takes the time to analyse the behaviour of some children so labeled, one can see the reward for the behaviour. It is questionable whether the behaviour is a random occurrence due to a condition or a deliberate choice to gain the desired reward.

    I behave therefore I am.
    (Apologies to B F Skinner and Rene Descartes)

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    #1691507
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    lilith7

    “As for ADHD, ADD, OCD etc I now know in hindsight that that was what some of my friends had we just didn’t know it then.”

     

    Too true,Hero. One of the more difficult aspects of dealing with kids who have ADHD is the backyard experts who like to claim it doesn’t exist,or its just ‘bad parenting’,or they need to ‘get more exercise’ or  even ‘they just need a damn good hiding!’ 🙄  🙄

    #1691508
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    totara

    Supergold wrote

    My parents never drove me to school. I had a bicycle that weighed probably 50 pounds, and only had one speed, (slow).

    My first bicycle was an ex-paratrooper bike. It weighted about half a ton and was sturdy to be dropped from airplanes. Those were the days.

    #1691564
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    halcyon

    “As for ADHD, ADD, OCD etc I now know in hindsight that that was what some of my friends had we just didn’t know it then.”

    What criteria did you use to arrive at this diagnoses. How did you differentiate between that diagnoses and an alternative reason for the behaviour.

    This epitomises my comment. We are too ready to make a diagnosis without having all the facts. If making the diagnosis  was that simple then the Education Department would not need to employ Psychologists.

    I behave therefore I am.
    (Apologies to B F Skinner and Rene Descartes)

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    #1692412
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    supergold

    Toothpaste lesson 1 GH

    We may no longer remember every single detail of our childhood, but there are some memories that stick with us for life.

    I don’t remember what I ate on a specific day when I was eight years old, but I sure do recall going on fun trips with my family at that age and I also clearly remember the things some of my classmates have said about me.

    It’s been decades, but every once in a while some of their words (good and bad) come to mind.

    This is why one mother had to make sure her daughter understood the power of words before she started her first day of middle school.

    Amy Beth Gardner could’ve had a simple talk with her daughter, Breonna, about why it’s important to choose the words we speak carefully, but instead, she decided to impart her wisdom through a visual lesson that the young girl will carry with her for life.

    Gardner then took to Facebook to share the important lesson with her fellow parents.

    In the viral post, which has been shared over 1.8 million times, the mom explained that after they have “decorated her [Breonna] locker, bought new uniforms,” and “even surprised her with a new backpack,” they still had one of the most important activities left to do.

    Gardner asked 11-year-old Breonna to squeeze toothpaste onto a plate, then she told her to put the sticky product back into the tube. Of course, the pre-teen couldn’t do the impossible and her mother knew that.

    She’s used the squeezed toothpaste as a metaphor for words leaving our mouth.

    “You will remember this plate of toothpaste for the rest of your life. Your words have the power of life or death. As you go into middle school, you are about to see just how much weight your words carry.”

    “You are going to have the opportunity to use your words to hurt, demean, slander and wound others. You are also going to have the opportunity to use your words to heal, encourage, inspire and love others. You will occasionally make the wrong choice; I can think of three times this week I have used my own words carelessly and caused harm.”

    “Just like this toothpaste, once the words leave your mouth, you can’t take them back. Use your words carefully, Breonna. When others are misusing their words, guard your words. Make the choice every morning that life-giving words will come out of your mouth. Decide tonight that you are going to be a life-giver in middle school. Be known for your gentleness and compassion. Use your life to give life to a world that so desperately needs it. You will never, ever regret choosing kindness.”

    Gardener admitted to Today that while the idea may not be original, she did think of it while brushing her teeth one night and knew it was the best way to make sure her daughter was ready for the school year ahead.

    “I had been thinking for weeks about how my daughter was entering middle school and how I wanted to prepare her as best as I could.”

    So did the lesson work? Gardner, who adopted Breonna and her sister, Bridget, 7, thinks so.

    After the activity, she and Breonna took some time to discuss personal examples of situations in which words played big roles.

    “As a parent, I want Breonna to draw from my strengths and learn from my weaknesses,” she told Today.

    The mother-of-two also added that because Breonna and her sister had a rocky start in life, she and her husband Paul make sure to put in even more effort in order to instill these types of lessons in their girls so they grow up to be great adults.

    It looks like she’s doing a fantastic job, and has inspired so many parents along the way.

    Supergold-Wainuiomata (Wellington)

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    #1692720
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    lilith7

    Its simple & so all the more vivid & difficult to forget;the kind of small thing which stay with any child & probably for life. 🙂

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    supergold

    The author of this is not known. It was found in the wallet of Coach Paul Bear Bryant, Alabama, after he died in 1982. 

    The Magic Bank Account

    Imagine that you had won the following *PRIZE* in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400 in your private account for your use. However, this prize has rules:

    The set of rules:

    1. Everything that you didn’t spend during each day would be taken away from you.

    2. You may not simply transfer money into some other account.

    3. You may only spend it.

    4. Each morning upon awakening, the bank opens your account with another $86,400 for that day.

    5. The bank can end the game without warning; at any time it can say,“Game Over!”. It can close the account and you will not receive a new one.

    What would you personally do?

    You would buy anything and everything you wanted right? Not only for yourself, but for all the people you love and care for. Even for people you don’t know, because you couldn’t possibly spend it all on yourself, right?

    You would try to spend every penny, and use it all, because you knew it would be replenished in the morning, right?

    ACTUALLY, This GAME is REAL …

    Shocked ??? YES!

    Each of us is already a winner of this *PRIZE*. We just can’t seem to see it.

    The PRIZE is *TIME*

    1. Each morning we awaken to receive 86,400 seconds as a gift of life.

    2. And when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is
    not credited to us.

    3. What we haven’t used up that day is forever lost.

    4. Yesterday is forever gone.

    5. Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank can dissolve your account at any time WITHOUT WARNING…

    SO, what will YOU do with your 86,400 seconds?

    Those seconds are worth so much more than the same amount in dollars. Think about it and remember to enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you think.

    So take care of yourself, be happy, love deeply and enjoy life!

    Here’s wishing you a wonderful and beautiful day. Start “spending”….

    “DON’T COMPLAIN ABOUT GROWING OLD…!” SOME PEOPLE DON’T GET THE PRIVILEGE!

    Supergold-Wainuiomata (Wellington)

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    jens

    Yes, it made me  think,  and is there  not a  flaw in it, supergold ?

    Because it is absolutely impossible not  to “spend” the seconds  given to us, isn’t it ?

    But if it is seen as a recommendation for  hedonistic  living, I think even you have not taken it up  because of  being  afraid  of not  privileged  to grow old ?

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    supergold

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    Supergold-Wainuiomata (Wellington)

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