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    Joybel
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    What makes you, you? What makes you tick? What makes you the happiest and what upsets you easily. What are your likes and dislikes? Do you go with the flow or do you take stock of how much your life is governed by other peoples dictates. Things like your health, leisure, needs, pleasures, the clothes you wear etc. Have you ever sat down and wondered where you can make changes which will enhance the present way your life is ticking along. Maybe you are satisfied with your lot. For me it was the realisation that I was beginning to become slack about some aspects of my living and bored with the niggly day to day necessities to be a happy housewife getting the chores done. Going on strike and letting things go. Of course, after my motto of don’t put it down, put it away, went haywire and I kept mislaying things, I knew it had to change. I was tired, I thought. Well, why was I tired. I have every comfort, I don’t have work hard or cook a meal if I don’t want to. Back pedal. Could that be it. How often did I bother to cook a meal? Think about it. I did. I am a morning person. By 3pm my body winds down. Staying up late, not enough sleep, because I still woke up early and always woke two or more times with aches or comfort stops. No energy to cook dinner. Lousy excuse, eh. I have changed and now my stews, soups and veges are cooked and prepared after breakfast. Then comes the chores and I am free to come and go as I please and there is more energy to use in fun or what ever I choose. I do a volunary stint, take a carless friend out shopping and a drive or stay and home and do sewing, family history, or what makes me happy. This is the third thread I have started. The other two have not created an interest. Will this one. Did a change in your life style ever improve your capacity to function?

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    In a roundabout way,perhaps. Recently my eldest granddaughter came to live with me,so have gone from a one person household to one adult & one teenager.
    I don’t think this is quite what you meant,but it has created changes.
    It sounds as though the changes you made were necessary due to your body clock – some being more alert & less tired of a morning,while others are night owls.

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    Joybel, good on you girl, you have worked through the problem and made the changes which have enhanced your life. Boy, does life get boring at times, too true. For me I find comfort in reading, being a member of grownups, writing letters to the papers, my friends and family. Housework is a once a week good clean through, except for those things we need to do each day, after suffering a couple of strokes within a short time, having to take lots of meds, I found my life different, used to be up and about, worked etc, all gone now, found other things to replace them though, dont know that this improved my capacity to function, but gave me a better outlook on life, I think its important to relax and enjoy life. cannot say that happens for me all the time, but I try to find things to be grateful for each day, sorry Joybel, probably gone off the topic abit. lol

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    We definitely go through stages don’t we ..there are so many times when i have taken stock and decided that I must upgrade something or other. Keeping a calm heart about everything is very good for everyone, and somewhere it is described as “the life of the fleshly organism” To me that means that if you are calm about everything then you will be keeping stress levels down and that helps everything..
    I find that taking stock and action is an ongoing necessity as we are imperfect and there always must be something that needs seeing to.
    That is great to be able to help others now Joybel..you havr managed your affairs admirably.
    Belladonna..what a change!!
    Booklover, you have a nice attitude about your enforced situation.
    Oprah used to talk about finding things to be grateful for..5 things every day, and at first I thought that might be hard to do every day, but I started writing them down and the things to be grateful for were there popping into my head as easy as.

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    Great good sometimes comes out of change and somtimes it comes from where you least expect it .10 years ago my son went to Aussie . Unfortunately he was on drugs . 5 years ago I broke my neckand he came home to look after me . Unfortunately he had hpc and I had to look after him. Today he is drug free , HP free , and is on the road to recovery . Isn’t it a good job I broke my neck ? I think so.

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    Thank you for the input. Yes it is easy to become complacent and let life roll along. Then wham! and an incident brings home to us that, hey, I can do better than this and some of us are able to swim by ourselves while others need a little push or encouragement. This is where family, friends and outside help is waiting for us just to ask. Bless your heart Trogan. I knew you had a heart. Thanks for sharing your story. Your accident sure brought good changes to you and your son. I think he needed something to motivate him to come home and say “You need me dad, and I need you” You provided the opening to bring you together again and what a wonderful opportunity you both took advantage of.

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    its great sometimes how things work out, out of adversity ,wonderful things can happen. So pleased for you Trogan, and your son. Hi bobbity, love your bright spirit, it shines through all you write. Think now at this stage in life just live for the day, be happy with what I have and leave regrets behind, — life is still full of wonder and surprise, love and laughter, tears, and sadness, but thats life, besides think its good to have a good old cry sometimes, clears the mind.

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    Of course, having been widowed for 16 years has been a lesson in survival of the spirit as well as the physical. When I need a job done I want it done now and I say out loud “Husband! where are you I need this fixed”. Just saying his name calms me and I either have a go or get on the phone or computer. I know there is always someone to help and I just have be patient. We all make adjustments when life takes a sudden devastating turn and each of you are showing the resilience that is in us waiting to be sent for. Good one.

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    (thanks so much Booklover..I never thought of me like that tho’..)

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    Joybel , no way would I say ” Wife where’s my dinner ” or some such thing , my ears would be ringing for a week , I might think , I wish you were here to tell me how to do this and a funny thing it seems to get done . Such is the power of suggestion .

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    Will try that one Trojan. When I take my friend out shopping she contacts her guides or Him upstairs as she calls them, letting them know where we are heading and asking if we can pleases have a handy parking space, have always got one too, I have to admit.

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    that seems to work most times, Joybel. Isnt it great that we can all grow through adversity. I think we rediscover who we are, and just what we can do, if we put our minds to it. Mind you have our down times to, (wellI do), but a few words to the man upstairs, a good talking to myself, usually works wonders.

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