Trust, Love, Sex and Batteries - Advice for Men

Women

Women are complex creatures aren’t we. We want love, companionship, security and good sex. Wow, that’s a LOT to ask for isn’t it. Chances are you fit the bill on most of these which also means you probably fail miserably in ONE of these. This is where I come in. When it comes to sex men and women are very different which means men don’t intuitively know everything that a woman wants and vice versa. To give our partner true pleasure takes educating yourself, communication, understanding and a desire to succeed on both ends. What I will talk about here touches on all of these things. You, as the man in the relationship, have some very unique responsibilities in the bedroom. You are responsible for making your partner feel accepted, enticed, intrigued, playful, willing, adventurous and beautiful. Sounds hard, but it’s very simple and I’m going to help you understand how easy it all truly is.

Trust

Trust is an emotion that runs very deep. Trusting someone to be there in a time of need, or to be honest at all times, to do what they say they will do, to be caring and kind are all directly related to trust in the bedroom. If you “blow up” on your partner for silly reasons do not expect her to be very open with you in the bedroom. Trust is trust. You either feel it or you don’t. All types of mistrust affect all types of trust. Crazy, I know. Chances are though you don’t have a problem in the trust department.

How This Helps You: If she completely trusts you, she’ll be more comfortable with you and your sexual relationship will reflect that comfort.

Self Consciousness

Has your partner ever said “I’m fat”, or “How do I look?” Women are notorious for self consciousness. How do you think this equates into the bedroom? I think it’s fairly easy to understand that if you do not happily accept almost everything about her sexuality, then you are directly causing her to feel self conscious. Yes, you. Self consciousness is the key here. It can take a potentially top rated sexual experience and diminish it to nothing. Get rid of it! NOW! If your woman likes you to smear jelly all over her body, DO IT. And do it with a grin. Not only that but be excited about it. Go in the kitchen, make the damn jelly yourself and BEG her to let you do it. Make her feel comfortable, or you will take your sex life to a very unhappy place.

How This Helps You: If you help rid her of self consciousness she’ll quickly become more sexual and allow more intense interaction and more often.

Women’s Orgasms

Bet you didn’t know there are at least 3 types, which are outlined here. If you know of them... kudos. Not many do.

The first type is clitoral and does not involve penetration. This is the weakest of the three. This is usually what women fall back on when they cannot achieve the other 2 better orgasms. It is done by rubbing the clitoris a LOT.

The second type of orgasm is cervical. This is a very good one to get but many women have a hard time getting it. These are very deep at the back of the vagina towards the uterus. The cervix actually pops out of place with each spasm, slamming against the bottom of the vagina. Studies suggest the purpose of this is to gather up the sperm, sucking it up into the body for the purpose of procreation.

The third type of orgasm is called “Female Ejaculation” or “The G Spot Orgasm”.

Half of the women alive don’t even KNOW what this is and have never had one. Many women start to feel it happen and make their partner stop. This is the type of orgasm that soaks the sheets. And guys, no it’s not urine. Women have a “G Spot” which is a gland 1-3 inches inside the vagina that produces a similar substance to men’s sperm. The substance is watery, cloudy white, sticky and sweet. Some women can produce a gallon in 30 minutes if they are stimulated properly. Women who don’t know what this is feel pressure building. The g-spot is located directly below the bladder which gives the woman a feeling like they have to urinate. This is usually when they want to stop. I do my best to educate women on this subject but you as her man are her best teacher.

Please note: The female should always urinate before sex to prevent infection, but this ALSO helps keep the urine concentration to a low level during FE. It does come from the same place and the first ejaculation may have a bit of a urinesque odour but further ejaculations in the same sex session will be of a purer form of female ejaculate.

Statistics

70% of all women have trouble reaching climax. Could you imagine having sex all the time and only getting off 20 percent of the time? You would go nuts. How do you think SHE feels? Is she too embarrassed to talk about it with you? Too scared she’ll hurt your feelings? Most likely. Why do you think ALL women know how to “fake it”. It’s time to take this issue out of the closet and deal with it guys. You must realize that it’s NOT your fault. If you go into the bedroom feeling “weird”, it will do damage to your relationship. The villain here is being just plain unlucky. 1 out of 50 women are lucky enough to be “model” gorgeous. Well, the same applies to placement of anatomy in the genital region. Most women were just not lucky enough to be born with all their parts in the perfect place for easy orgasms. The other culprits are mistrust and close-mindedness.

The Good News!

There are products and techniques that you can introduce into your relationship to make your woman start having orgasms all the time. Some of you may have already experienced this. Maybe she brought in a vibrator? If so, good for her! You should be proud of her for being courageous enough and you should be supportive. If YOU feel weird about it, it will make HER feel weird and we’ve already discussed how that ends up. If you don’t own any sex toys, you SHOULD. Every woman should own a bullet vibrator that can be used while having intercourse with you. The bullet is placed onto the clitoris while you have sex. She will go from never having orgasms to having multiples. It’s very therapeutic for your relationship for her to orgasm every time you have sex. The bullet helps her achieve this. It is NOT a replacement of you and it’s NOT your fault that she needs one.

Her First Time

Some women, like myself, when confronted with a vibrator for the first time react very badly. Some say “NO WAY”. But on the inside we really want to try it. We’re just scared or embarrassed. It is your job to make her feel comfortable. It is your job to insist that she try it. She may say no the first few times but eventually she will try it under the guise that it’s “just for you”. Hook, line and sinker. You’ve got her.

Some Points to Remember

1 - Get a bullet.

2 - Make her use it.

3 - Be supportive, be ENTHUSIASTIC about her using it, even if you have to fake it at first.

4 - Keep a smile on your face.

5 - Don’t ever be embarrassed or self conscious. Your woman has enough self consciousness for everyone. It’s your job to be COURAGEOUS in bed, even if you have to fake it at first until you get your bearings.

6 - When you feel her drying out for any reason IMMEDIATELY use a lubricant. If you don’t, I guarantee she’ll be faking it through immense pain. Do not use spit unless you want to give her an infection.

Article by Rebecca Wagner
 

Published 17th Mar 2010

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