My 15 year old grand daughter is being very argumentative and rebellious and will not accept any house rules. her Mum is doing her best but is exhausted with all the back chat and staying out at night aswell as running away. Who does one go to for help.? She has had counselling but it only seems to help for a while. She says there's nothing wrong but ... Any suggestions anyone?

I have to admit I am glad I dont have to deal with teens anymore. Maggie, I wish I had some wise advice - but I dont. My son is having problems with his 16yr old son, and is at a loss as what to do. I told him that his son is an angel compared to what he was like - but it doesn't help the present problem. When your grandaughter is in your home she follows your rules, if she cant - then she isnt allowed in. But when she falls and needs picking up - be there for her.

It can be hell to be a teenager... hormones running rampant, emotions out of control, feeling that no one understands... I guess all you can really do, Maggie, is mark time, take a deep breath and listen to whatever your granddaughter is saying. Don't interrupt, don't take personally whatever she says, and don't talk much. Just listen.
A lot of what young people say to their families isn't really what they think. It's just stuff off the top of their heads.

Since my last posting here my grand daughter has grown up and she is back on good terms with her Mum. She was always polite and respectful towards me but her Mum bore the brunt of all her teenage angst. It took some rather tragic circumstances regarding someone else's parent for her to value her mother. Grand daughter is now back to her old loving, cheerful self and has taken command of her life for the better.

So all the best to you struggling Mums, Dads and extended family for a good outcome to any problems.