Erectile dysfunction – do you suffer from it?

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Before getting too concerned, let’s understand what erectile dysfunction (ED) really is.  Failing to get an erection after a few too many drinks or during a stressful week isn’t ED. Also, as you age it’s normal to experience changes in your sexual response. These include having to wait longer after orgasm for another erection or needing direct stimulation. These don’t necessarily mean ED.

pexels-photo-271897-2ED is being unable to get and maintain an erection hard enough for sex. This may be that your penis doesn’t get hard enough or gets hard but softens too soon. ED generally comes on gradually. When such changes happen regularly they can be stressful for you and/or your partner so it’s time to talk to your healthcare professional.

Your healthcare professional will talk to you about your symptoms and how long/often this has been happening. They will ask you about your lifestyle if you are taking any medications and may also investigate to see if any of the following applies to you:

  • Cardiovascular disease
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Any hormonal conditions
  • Obesity, smoking, high cholesterol

Advice for Partners

When a man experiences ED, he’s not the only one who’s affected. His partner may also be impacted, and they may want to help but not know what to do. Here are some tips that may help:

  • Communicate. Discuss your concerns about ED and tell your partner you care and want to help
  • Reassure. Remind your partner that they are not alone
  • Learn. Read up about ED and the treatment options
  • Healthcare Professional. Go to the doctor’s appointment with your partner for support
  • Lifestyle. Help your partner address any lifestyle issues that may help him such as giving up smoking, diet, exercise and managing stress levels
  • Support. Show your partner you still love him in other ways


If you’d like to find out more about erectile dysfunction talk to your healthcare professional or visit

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