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My Partner / Relationship-Spouse Advice

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    lufflyone
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    Member since: July 11, 2019
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    lufflyone

    My Partner lies and Protects another woman, Protects her by deleting her messages and his messages between them, phone calls etc. If theres nothing going on why would those mesaages need to be deleted Ive asked…..

    His response is because he doesnt need the earfull from me.

    I recently blocked her on his phone only to find a couple of days later shes unblocked and im blocked? After asking him what thats about, he genuinely had no idea about it.

    Please someone give me some advice as to what these are to mean..

    Im pretty certain that I already know because of the way I feel about it. But id feel better knowing im not crazy and that someone else sees it the same maybe.

    #1724880
    missmel
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    Member since: February 9, 2019
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    missmel

    I’m a bit worried for you, because in a relationship, trust is the most important thing. If he has something to hide, then I would be very concerned. Maybe he is not cheating, but it sounds to me if he is communicating with another woman, the chance that he is is probably quite likely.

    #1725324
    diney4469
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    Member since: September 24, 2016
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    diney4469

    You partners response to your question is emotional abuse.  If he has nothing to hide then everything should be open & transparent.  listen to your intuition/instinct, it is screaming the truth at you.

     

    #1725325
    TailsNZ
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    Member since: October 31, 2010
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    TailsNZ

    even if it is just a friendship and not sexual, i would be concerned if he saw her as his closest friend and not you his wife. as to whether he is having an affair, may i ask if you are both still sexually active together? if not, then that suggests he is meeting his needs elsewhere. i am sorry, but if this was me i would be genuinely concerned as you are.

    #1732111
    moniquea
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    Member since: September 13, 2019
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    moniquea

    I agree with diney4469. It’s common sense and the warning signs are there as you know. I had warning signs yet I refused to see them in my last relationship. Go with your intuition. Trust is the biggest issue in relationships and he seems to be sabotaging yours, you deserve better.

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    #1733082
    corrino
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    Member since: September 26, 2019
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    corrino

    I’m not trying to be insensitive but to look at this situation from another angle….you feel the need to check his personal phone messages and block numbers on his phone. You have confronted him and he has not responded the way you want. The issue sits with you not him. You have no trust so I think its fair to say you are probably best to move on..unless there are important reasons you think you should stay with him?

    #1735523
    MrsQuilter
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    Member since: September 15, 2007
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    MrsQuilter

    Why on earth do you want to stay with a man who not only treats you with disrespect but allows a female friend to do so as well?
    FB can be both good and bad and blocking someone these days is seen as seriously upsetting – but it gives you a clear signal that you are not wanted in the relationship. Do you want to spend the rest of your life being rejected? Of course not.

    Talk it over with him frankly and if he refuses, you know what to do. You deserve better.

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