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The Angry and Sometimes Grumpy Children of the 1950's

Courtesy of Sue and Chuck DeFiore

A bunch of us in our late 40's and early 50's got together the other night, and after the evening was over I started thinking that many of us born in the 1950's are in a crisis stage.  This article discusses some of the issues we (most of us are in our 50’s or 60’s) have issues with society today and it’s frustrating when our 20 something grandchildren come bouncing into the room with this teen angst of “lighten up man.” If only they could understand why we are so angry and grumpy sometimes.

The consensus of our generation is; "is this all there is." We've been working since our teens. A car costs more today than what our parents bought a house for. We work and work and still don't have enough. Food costs have risen astronomically, along with utility costs, insurance costs, and housing costs.

We start laughing at one point and thought (hypocritically) that we sound like our grandparents. However, it is a very sad commentary that what took place for our grandparents over numerous decades, has only taken 20 to 30 years to occur for us. The real scary thing is that salaries for many jobs have not changed over that twenty year period, while our expenses have skyrocketed, and increased one hundred fold.

We all became nostalgic when we talk about the things we used to do to relax. How so many of those things are gone, or we can't afford to do them any longer. Our kids tell us we don't have a clue about school, sex, music, or what's going on in the world. Again, the laughter abounded with the music issues, but became very serious when we talked about the scary things kids do today, that we wouldn't even have thought of when we were growing up. Killing teachers, and other students never entered our minds. We had respect for our teachers and those in charge.

The next thing is our health. For some of us, the ravages of time have taken place... eyesight problems, arthritis problems, blood pressure problems, "the barnacles of life". The discussion we had on the cost of health care was a lively and volatile one to say the least. Many of us who have had major illness problems also went ballistic with regards to the social security system, the disability system and Medicare system. The majority of us have worked since our teenage years. We were incredulous when it took over a year to get money from the social security system, especially when we see people playing the system who don't deserve it.

Most of us are still working. The majority of our group are either self-employed or independent contractors. Many of us run home-based businesses. While we are still disheartened with the rise in costs, at least our work environment is a happy one, and one we feel in control of. For those in our group still working in corporate America, that's just an additional concern and stress for them. Is their job safe? Will they be downsized? Laid off? We went back and forth on the work issue and found that while running your own business is a risk, we have a lot more control over our destiny than if we worked for someone else, and hence, a lot less stress. Plus we can't fire ourselves.

We all wonder where it will end. So many of us thought we would be retired by now, or at least contemplating it within the next five to ten years. However, with all the medical advances and hundred-fold costs of so many things, that is not an option. Retirement is no longer something people do automatically between 55 and 65. Today, the retirement age is in the 70's.

For many of us, the thought of another twenty or more years of working is a depressing one, in addition to making us very angry and grumpy to say the least.

Published 19th Nov 2009

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by beachbum 3rd December 2009 yeah.. but there is an alternative. Be a drop out. There was a tv program a couple of years ago about 'grey nomads' in aussie. Sell up and buy a camper home or even a motorbike and be a gypsy. Oh you may have do go without all those cafe stops and live a simple life. Or you could do what some old folks in the USA do - rob a bank and live in jail for free.
by Walslyn 4th January 2010 Well Yes, you can look at things that way. Or you can look at what we do have and feel very comfortable. I agree, we do live in a rotten system, but growling and moaning about it isn't going to fix it. We need to be able to enjoy life with what we have now. We all know that our health is going to go down hill as we age, so take care of ourselves now to ease into old age gracefully. As for grizzeling about the grand children, We should be listening to them because they do live in a different world to what we were brought up in. We can help each other through these times because they can keep us up to date, and we have experience and problem solving skills that they are yet to develop. I really enjoy having my family around. Someone said recently. " if you look at what you havn't got, you'll have nothing, but if you look at what you DO have, you have lots" True isn't it.
by plusten 29th January 2010 One way of looking at it I guess, but it's also an ideal time to look at what you really want - can you downsize and live a simpler life - do you really need to keep on working flat tack for the next 20 years, or can you survive on less. If you do have to keep working at least choose something you enjoy working at. Where will it all end? It's inevitable I'm afraid, and some are closer to it than others, so why not make the most of what you've got and the years (hopefully) that you have left alive and again, hopefully, in good health.
by jesse 23rd February 2010 Well YES to the article..Life as we get older is harder I agree. What can we do? As Beachbum say's go bush, drop out, run away!! Ha ha! This would be so easy if we didn't have committments also though. What with no money, scraping for extra to pay the bills, food, etc one would love to go bush, be a bum and yes drop out. I am a nomad at heart. A Hippy and getting a camper would be wonderful and just go, travel. Just to be! REALITY check...I have a younger son who I am responsible for and what with family and friends one cannot just sell up an go. SO another answer make the most of now. The moments that is and dream, and hope one day this nomadic life will be my realitiy anyway?? Amen to that one a?!! Ciao for now...
by geewhiz 27th February 2010 It is depressing when you look at what we can't have because of money restrictions but we also have the wisdom to have figured out what is really essential to our owen lives, good friends, reasonable health, the sun shinning, beauty to look at like hills or sea or flowers and lawn. Even pot plants in a row can lift the heart. The most comfortable of beds. Meat (not too much, remember your cholestrol) and 3 veg for tea. We are surrounded by an abundance of choice but maybe that abundance is the problem, so many must-haves, so many wants but what do we need.
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