Grown Up Dating - Some Whys and Wherefores

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As a matchmaker I'm frequently dealing with those seeking matchmaking services who are 50-plus. Indeed one of our recent matches involved a gentleman of over 70 and the question some ask is 'what are my chances?'Obviously there are no easy answers because people of 50-plus, like those 50-under, come in every shape and size and intellect and interest and . . well, pretty well everything else. That is what makes matchmaking so fascinating. Not only is everyone different, but everyone also has something to offer if they are serious about trying to find a 'perfect match'.My answer to those questions however is usually two-fold. First, be realistic about your expectations on the person you would like to meet and, second, believe in yourself. Be confident and genuine in your desire for a partner.Often clients will have been widowed or have perhaps never married. They will be uncomfortable in themselves and therefore not really in a position to meet someone. What can they do?There are a lot of things. We help often to try and instil missing confidence and to talk realistically about the sort of person they would like to meet.I'm pleased to say that we've been able to make many successful, 'mature' matches. But it means that both parties must commit to being realistic and genuine in their desire to 'give it a go' - to get out and meet someone. Even when a match may not 'stick', many couples go on to become friends.And friendship in mature years is something that is valuable. Like love. So be confident. Step out there. Give it a go.

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