After our dad died last year, Mum is now living with us and over the past month, all her possessions (and Dad's as well) have been moved into our house.

Consequently, my wife has given Mum's things priority, with my things being either put outside or up in the loft.

I am feeling a bit disorientated ......and crunched!

The question is, will I ever return to normal - without roughing my wife's feathers. I just can not believe that she has done things like this.

Does your Mum have Alzheimers, epal? If so, she will settle in much easier with things she recognises around her. Enjoy your Mum while you have her

Your wife is just trying to make Mum feel at home. Things will settle down after a while. Just give it time.

Post deleted at 21 Jul 2009 10:37am by ansy pansy

Post deleted at 09 Feb 2010 10:48am by GrownUps Administrator

I hope things have settled down now. It's a tough time on all when a loved one passes on and the other moves in with relatives.

Yes. Had first hand experience of this. A lot of patience is needed.

There has to have been a necessary reason for a mother to leave her family home after a husband had passed away. Age and health is a reason she could not cope. The demands such a move can place on a family can become fraught with complications, and place added responsibility on a daughter who may not be in the best health herself or be even menopausal. This is no small sacrifice to make. As much as a mother is loved it can put strain on other family members who feel pushed aside to make room for an elderly parent. These daughters are such devoted and loving family members and are to be cherished.